First you make a solid substance
“First you make a solid substance, ‘me,’ and then you can apply an evaluative matrix: good, bad, right, wrong, successful, unsuccessful and so on. But when I am here with you there isn’t a ‘me’ and a ‘you’; there is ‘me with you’. It is our being with each other that allows the evolution of the shared field of experience and moment by moment it is what it is. This is dzog pa chen po – it is complete – it is just this. What else should it be? ‘Ah, but James you could have been talking about something else? Why did you choose this when you could have chosen that?’ This has gone and that has never arrived. How you can compare the fantasy future to the vanished past I don’t know, but we do it all the time and this is how we persecute ourselves: ‘If only I had done that!’ Not possible. Each moment is this.”
― The Mirror of Clear Meaning: A Commentary on the Dzogchen Treasure Text of Nuden Dorje